Reading the list of psychological components of grudges helps me understand and recognize when I might be starting to foster a grudge. There was a point years ago when I was beginning to hold a grudge against someone who had wronged me. (It was not a criminal offense.) Fortunately, I ended up in counseling for a totally different issue, and the counselor's advice to forgive the offender helped me move on, though I still struggled from seeing the offender on a regular basis, as we attended the same church. I can see how if that grudge had gone unchecked, it could've become a much bigger issue, perhaps even self-harm. How tragic that this young man killed a young woman as revenge. Thank you for sharing, Joni.
Reading the list of psychological components of grudges helps me understand and recognize when I might be starting to foster a grudge. There was a point years ago when I was beginning to hold a grudge against someone who had wronged me. (It was not a criminal offense.) Fortunately, I ended up in counseling for a totally different issue, and the counselor's advice to forgive the offender helped me move on, though I still struggled from seeing the offender on a regular basis, as we attended the same church. I can see how if that grudge had gone unchecked, it could've become a much bigger issue, perhaps even self-harm. How tragic that this young man killed a young woman as revenge. Thank you for sharing, Joni.